MCFH S6E8 - FOOD AGGRESSION, BITES ANKLES, FEARFUL GUARDIAN
Show: My Cat From Hell Season 6, Episode 8
Episode Title: Love Bites!
8 1/2 year old female Tortie; abandoned at a veterinary office after being found as a stray, and was adopted by Josh at 3 months old.
Guardians: Josh and Sydney
Josh and Sydney have been dating for two years, and Sydney just moved in a couple weeks ago. Josh came into this relationship with Nico, and they share a strong bond.
How Bad Is It?
Nico is being very aggressive towards Sydney, and as a result Sydney is living in fear and discomfort in her new home. Josh insists that if Sydney and Nico cannot get along, he will have to choose his cat over his girlfriend.
- Scratching, hissing, biting, and intimidating new guardian.
- Food aggression and anxiety.
- Guardians are not united and not working as a team; tension in relationship.
When a cat is aggressive and demanding towards a guardian, it can cause the guardian to become fearful and uncomfortable when interacting with this cat. Cats are like energetic mirrors, meaning that the energy they are approached with is usually the energy they will display in return. If you approach a cat with fear and uncertainty, they will feel the same way towards you.
If you make a conscious effort to relax and trust the cat, they will typically feel this energy and become comfortable and relaxed in return. The guardian should take control and be the leader, and the cat should follow your lead. A great way to make sure you are relaxed and confident is to do “body checks”, meaning check your body language and energy from time to time when interacting with the cat to make sure you are breathing and displaying confidence. Jackson helped Sydney work through the fear and take the lead with Nico, and after some practice their relationship improved and Nico respected her new guardian.
When a cat has food anxiety and becomes aggressive during meal times, the guardian should work towards taking the lead and training the cat to respect them. You can try feeding the cat with a retractable spoon and eventually feed the cat out of your hand when comfortable, to show that you are in control of meal time and show the cat that you are confident. You may also need to move the location of feedings to another room if the original location has negative energy, that is, if the room carries bad memories for the cat and/or guardian, which would only increase anxiety and nervousness. When Jackson guided Sydney through these practices, Nico showed obedience and calm energy.
Play therapy is always a great way to help cats bond with their guardian and feel happy and comfortable in their space. Having a variety of toys for your cat will keep them entertained and stimulated.
It is very common for cats that were previously stray or homeless to have food anxiety/issues. Most street cats must fight for their food, and this street mentality can stay with them their entire lives if we do not aid them in healing. We want our pets to feel safe and loved, but we also cannot let them intimidate us, so it is up to us to change the dynamic of the relationship and create a healthy bond.
When two people in a relationship are co parenting a pet, it is best to work together to improve the relationships between guardian and pet. Even if one guardian has issues with the animal but the other guardian doesn’t, it is still a team effort. The likelihood of the relationship improving and the pet healing greatly increases when there is a feeling of support and positivity.
Spirit Essences remedies that might be helpful in this type of situation are:
Bully Solution is formulated to help when an animal wants to control and dominate others, including their guardian. It is designed to help the bully animal to relax and let others go about their business. Bully Solution is the formula to take a look at when you have an animal that tries to intimidate people or other animals with aggressive behavior. Nico felt the need to dominate the relationship she had with her new guardian Sydney, and was displaying bully behavior by biting her ankles and blocking her from comfortably walking through her new home. Jackson used Bully Solution to help Nico relax and build a healthy relationship with Sydney, along with other tools and guidance.
Every pet is different, and has different needs and healing responses. Some other possible Spirit Essences Solutions that may be helpful in this type of situation are...
Trauma-Free is designed to help clear the energy system of animals that experienced abuse, neglect, or accidents in the past. This formula was made to help clear any negative “baggage” an animal may be holding on to, so they can heal from this trauma and move forward. This formula may also be helpful for the treatment of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder in animals. It may be a good idea to consider using this formula on an animal who was recently adopted from a shelter or rescue, as they may have experienced trauma that we are not aware of. Trauma-Free may have been helpful in Nico’s journey through healing from past experiences that happened while she was a stray kitten.
Stress Stopper is formulated to help animals adapt and cope with unusual or stressful situations, such as thunderstorms, remodeling, visitors, boarding, or similar situations. It is designed to help animals feel grounded and protected. Stress Stopper may be helpful in reducing any day to day stress that your animal may experience, wherever this stress is stemming from. Whether there is tension in the home or problematic relationships, this formula may help animals feel grounded throughout these stressful times. Nico may have benefited from consistent use of Stress Stopper, as there was tension and stress filling the home, especially during meal times.
Training Formula is designed to aid in the training of animals, including the breaking of bad habits, by helping the animal to remain focused, willing, and able to learn quickly and without excessive repetition. This formula may also be helpful when changing an animal’s routine or putting them on a strict schedule, and can help to ease the transition. Training Formula may have been beneficial in Nico’s situation when Sydney began to change the feeding routine and regained control in the relationship. It may have reduced any resistance or repetition during the process.
Obsession Solution is formulated for animals with obsessive-compulsive behaviors such as excessive grooming, self-mutilation, pacing or over-vocalization. This formula can also be helpful for animals that have an obsession with food. Behavior such as meowing and begging for food during odd hours, aggression before and during meal time, and overeating can be signs of a food-obsessed animal. Nico had food obsession issues and became very aggressive before and during meal time, and this formula could have possibly been helpful in her situation.